All Together

Do you know anyone who seems to have it all together?... I do. These are often times the people who i "iconize", meaning i try to pattern my life a little like theirs, and i study what they seem to be doing right. Sometimes i don't like the "got it all together" people but we're not talking about them right now. Anyways... I've seen first hand recently just how torn apart some of the lives of people, who i thought had it all together, are.  Now yes, i'm going to say, there are people, who have it almost just right, they've got it almost perfect (note the almost) and they're doing pretty good. More power to them, I'll be praying for no major falls, but it could happen to any one of them, any day.  People are humans... meaning that we fell, we've been falling, and we'll keep falling 'til we get to heaven. Even in the people who's lives look almost "there" i can usually spot the problems, the little human issues that every person and family has. No one, i repeat, NO ONE has it all together. Some are screaming just under the surface, Some... are close to good, some have a sucky (to put it lightly) life, or circumstance,  and do the best they can with what they've got. While some, don't hide at all, they say look at me, i'm flawed, and why try to be better. Let's face it folks, if we think we've got it all together, we're seriously overlooking something. I may look, to a lot of people, like one of those who's got it all together, i can assure you, i don't. Some of my friends have definitely gotten the brunt of my venting... sorry to you guys (you know who you are), but i've got to tell someone my issues. I've been through the phases where i'm screaming just under the surface, it sucks, i know this from experience. I've been dangerously close to stopping trying, giving up, and adding a whole lot more flaws to my plate... things i really would have regretted had i taken that path, so i've almost been there, i can understand first hand why people go there, and i have no place, or desire to judge you if you're there. Right now, i don't really like where i am. I have a whole lot of crap attacking me from almost every side... but i'm gonna do the best i possibly can with what i get. And i'm gonna try to have the right attitude about it too. So ya... i have a whole boat load of issues. I've watched people fall apart at the seams because they try to hide all of their issues. I've seen people assess their life and say, screw it, it's not even worth trying to be ok anymore. And i've definitely seen people who have it really darn close to what's "good"...but i don't live with them, i can't hear their thoughts, i don't know every single thing they know, or person they talk to, or thing they go through. For all i know, they might just be waiting to fall apart tomorrow. So no, If you think i'm a "good little church girl" please drop that right now. yes, i want to be good, i want to "have it all together", and i want to follow god every step of the way. but i don't want to be seen as perfect. i'm not, i'm never going to be, and i don't want to pretend to be. We all need to learn to look at people for what they are... human, because you never know what's really behind a facade, and one of the absolute worst things (i know this from experience) is having people who try to stuff you into a facade. It might shock you to realize, your pastor's not perfect, his family has not got it all together, so don't expect him to. Encourage him, build him up, when he falls, help him up. but don't expect him to never fall. Think about the person/people in your life, that you dream of being just like, you want what they've got, in your own life. They do not have it all together, and they never will. So stop looking at them as if they're perfect. They're human just like the rest of us. Yes, look at what they may be doing right, take tips that they have to offer, and encourage them if they're doing well, because that's a great place to be. But one of these days they'll be in the pits too, god hasn't "specially favored" them, and said, "oh, i'll just let their life be easy, and always happy". Stop feeling like you're the only one who can possibly have it this bad. Yes, life really sucks sometimes, maybe it's even sucked your whole life so far. But someday, at least if you have the same perfect eternal father that i do, we'll all get to be in a perfect place, with perfect people forever. That's the ultimate end. Because there is only one being who really does have it all together. And he cares, whether we feel it or not. So you don't have it all together? That's ok. Neither do i. And neither does he/she/they.